Reimagine the Day of Love
“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” - Oscar Wilde
Valentine’s Day has been commercialized into a day for couples to express their love for one another with heart shaped balloons and chocolate covered strawberries (yes that’s the way to my heart). Although the message of the day is super important, it doesn’t tell the whole story.
First off, I believe it’s important to express love every day, not just one day. Second, it’s for everyone around you, not just your partner. And lastly, while it’s an opportunity to express how you feel about those around you, it’s equally important to show yourself that same love.
What if we used Valentine’s Day as a time to look inward; to express loving-kindness to ourselves; to tell ourselves how much we care and appreciate who we are?
To love yourself completely is one of the greatest love stories of them all; it can be the most challenging one too. If you’re anything like me, you look for things you don’t like about yourself, or focus on what you need to improve upon. But what does this do for you? Passing this judgement hinders you from being your authentic self; from showing up in life as the unique individual you are.
You’ve heard it before but it’s worth mentioning: if you don’t love yourself completely, how can you love those closest to you with all your heart? You’re only giving them the same amount of love you give to yourself. PSA: You can’t give a full cup of love if yours is half full.
For this Valentine’s Day, I encourage you to love yourself just as you are. To embrace every quality: ones you currently love and ones you have a challenge with. Express to yourself how grateful you are for every trait that makes you you!
We live in a world where striving is the goal, getting to the next level is praised, and becoming a better version of yourself is the latest catch phrase.
While these societal norms are inherently good, they leave a trail of unworthiness that says you must challenge yourself and constantly do something to be better. The undercurrent is saying you aren’t enough in this present moment.
I beg to differ.
While I believe it’s important to live as the best version of yourself, that means accepting and loving all of you. Just as you are. As you love every part of you, you’ll start to see the areas that you weren’t fond of become strengthened through your nurturing thoughts.
Today, spend a few minutes and write a love letter to yourself. Write one to your current self and one to your future self 6 months from now. Tell yourself how much you appreciate every quality you possess; how much you believe in yourself. Let it be as natural as possible.
For the letter for the future, ask yourself, how can I show myself love 6 months from now. What would I want to know from my current self? Save the letter for the future or you can get fancy and schedule an email to yourself later.
If this is a challenge, it’s okay. Experiment with writing a letter to someone you love deeply. Express every thought that comes to mind about that person and your love for them.
Then, instead of their name, replace it with yours. More often than not, the qualities you identify in someone else are ones you care about deeply. Know that they are qualities that are being shaped in you. Speak those words into existence until you feel it deep within you. If this has an impact on you, share it with a loved one and encourage them to do the same!
The greatest gift in life is love - and not to mention it’s free. :)
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